Oyster-etiquette 101

Oysters at your wedding? Now that’s classy! This timeless delicacy can give your wedding celebration that extra special touch. But how do you serve oysters stylishly? And how should you eat them according to etiquette? Here’s a complete guide, with tips and inspiration for anyone looking to rent an oyster bar.

Photo (above) : Foodtruck (left) : Zeeuwse Oesterzusjes - Photographer : Sebastian de Meijer / Foodtruck (right) : Jean sur Mer

An oyster isn't a snack, it's an experience

Oysters carry a sense of mystery. They’re not immediately approachable and have a distinctive taste. Yet they are loved at celebratory occasions like weddings. With their pure character and wide range of flavors—fresh, briny, creamy, sometimes earthy or slightly sweet—oysters are a unique treat. Oysters at your wedding make the perfect finishing touch for an unforgettable experience.

For many, oysters are an acquired taste, as the English say. Like wine, the second oyster often reveals more nuance than the first. Want to serve your guests something special? Oysters are an elegant choice.

How to eat Oysters: Etiquette and tips

For those who’ve never eaten an oyster, it can be an adjustment—the texture, the smell, the brininess. Start with a few drops of lemon or a pinch of pepper to taste without overpowering. True oyster lovers eat them plain, taking time to chew and savor all aromas.

Use your nose too. Like wine has a terroir, oysters have a merroir: influenced by sunlight, depth, salinity, and currents. The more you taste, the more subtle flavors you recognize.

And yes, slurping is fine. Even if a small fork is provided, it’s perfectly acceptable to bring the oyster to your lips with a touch of flair.

Not a fan? Show it subtly

Not everyone likes oysters, and that’s okay. But, as with wine or cheese, etiquette suggests not loudly expressing your dislike. A polite smile and skipping the oyster are enough. Oysters are meant to be served and received with respect.

How to set up an Oyster Bar at your wedding

Want to add a special experience to your reception or walking dinner? A mobile oyster bar is an original and stylish choice. It’s a culinary highlight and a conversation starter. These providers make your oyster bar unforgettable:

1. Zeeuwse Oesterzusjes
   Zeeuwse Oesterzusjes provides a refined experience with fresh Yerseke oysters opened on site with care and interaction. While serving, they share the oysters’ origin and preparation, turning the bar into a fun talking point. Their flexibility and attention to individual preferences make oysters at your wedding a memorable moment.
   

2. ZILT – Oysters and More
   ZILT blends atmosphere and refined flavors, serving fresh oysters opened on site with expertise. Their distinctive style, from oyster baskets to maritime tables, creates a culinary experience perfectly suited to a wedding. For a bar offering a little extra—like grilled salmon or a vodka shot in the empty shell—ZILT is ideal. They accommodate dietary preferences and create a memorable moment even for first-timers.
   

3. Jean sur Mer
   Jean sur Mer offers a complete seafood experience. Their nostalgic foodtruck serves shrimp croquettes, ceviche, fish tacos, and classic dishes with a twist. Everything is freshly prepared locally and tailored to your event, whether a reception or late-night snack.

Champagne? Of course!

Oysters and champagne are an iconic duo. The sparkling freshness of champagne elevates the briny oyster. Other classic pairings include white Burgundy or Muscadet. Serving oysters with champagne creates not only a flavor sensation but also a festive atmosphere.

Additional etiquette tips

• Let some liquid drip from a full shell but don’t pour it all away—the briny juice gives the signature flavor.
  
• Turn the empty shell upside down to signal it has been eaten.
  
• If you doubt the smell, don’t eat it. Fresh oysters always smell fresh and briny.
  
• Avoid heavy sauces; lemon, pepper, or a drop of vinegar is enough.

FAQs - Everything about oysters at your wedding

1. Are oysters suitable for every wedding?

   Yes, if served properly. Perfect for a classy dinner, stylish aperitif, or walking dinner.

2. How many oysters per guest?

   Depends on the time of day. Reception: 2–3 per person. Oyster bar or amuse-bouche: 4–6 per person.

3. Is renting an oyster bar expensive?

   Varies by provider. Some charge per oyster, others a fixed package. Request personalized quotes.

4. What about guests who don’t like oysters?

   Always provide an alternative in the same style, e.g., shrimp or a vegetarian amuse-bouche.

5. Can oysters be served in winter?

   Absolutely. The best months include autumn and winter. Consider fire pits near the oyster bar.